It’s tough growing up as a kid today. As our society evolves, factors are in play that erode the parent-child connection. Dr. Rob Robinson, Clinical Director of Family Care Counseling Associates in Wilbraham explored why it’s tough growing up for many kids today and how we can parent with presence in an age of distraction.
Factors that erode connections
Weakening Parental Presence and Authority:
- Absentee parents
- Loss of connection to extended family
- Too busy
- Loss of guidance and leadership
- Loss of secure attachment and nurturing
- Loss of consequences
Smartphones and Parental Presence
- According to a 2012 study,1/3 of American mothers have smartphones and spend 6.1 hours per day on their IPhones.
- Distracted connection
- Weakened attention
Untethered connection to social media and weakened parental influence
- Issues with self perception and self esteem
- Issues with anxiety and depression
- Time on Facebook but not face to face with a parent.
Helicopter Parenting: Is this connection?
Tips for Parenting with Presence:
- Make space and time for connection
- Be smart with smart phones.
- Have face to face time rather than Facebook time.
- Go fly a kite – like “Mary Poppins”