CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – It’s not just homes that need a good spring cleaning, you should also spring clean your thoughts, feelings and behaviors! Dr. Rob Robinson, Clinical Director of Family Care Counseling Associates in Wilbraham shared tips.
Spring Cleaning Your Mind and Lifestyle
1. Learn to “row your boat more gently down the stream”. That’s right, overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill over every adversity will lead to chronic flooding and poor health. In order to make everything less catastrophic you have to learn your “ABC’s”.
2. Learn to STOP, BREATHE, THINK and CHOOSE more!. Herbert Benson, a cardiologist developed this technique to regulate impulse control and stay calm under pressure. The motto to embrace with this step is: ACT don’t REACT and DON’T DIE ON EVERY HILL.
3. Learn to think more optimistically. Optimists live on average 8 years longer than pessimists, have stronger immune systems and are generally happier people. The good news, even if you are more pessimistic is that optimism can be learned. The motto with this step is: DON’T THINK ALWAYS AND EVERYTHING.
4. Learn to understand and care more people’s feelings and the emotional impact we have on other people. In other words work on developing EMOTIONAL intelligence. Making good reads on the feelings of other people and the impact we have on others will lead to happier, more successful relationships in both personal and working relationships. One easy way of developing more empathy is to ask “IN WHAT I’M ABOUT TO SAY OR DO TO THIS OTHER PERSON, WHAT AM I TRYING TO ACHIEVE AND HOW DO I WANT THIS OTHER PERSON TO FEEL?”
5. Learn to build confidence and a greater sense of control over your life by practicing and easy to use self-esteem exercise each day for 4-weeks.
6. Learn to ask for help when you need it. By reaching out to others, you’ll find yourself becoming less overburdened, more connected and less stressed out when dealing with difficult challenges.