CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – What to do when you suspect your partner is not being faithful? Licensed Therapist Christian Smith, from Change Happens, Inc. in Chicopee shared important tips for couples.
“What to do when you suspect your partner is not being faithful”?
1. Prepare for the conversation. This can be very devastating experience. Bring up a lot of emotions. Think about what you would need for yourself in order to even have this conversation.
2. Focus on the facts. Part of your preparation my involve outlining why you feel what you feel.make a list of all the things that you have observed that are giving you this inclination that something is wrong.
3. Identify someone that you trust that you can talk. It is helpful to have someone else just to bounce this off of. A lot of times people will second-guessed and doubt their intuition so it’s helpful to have someone that you can talk to. The therapist often helpful because they can be objective.
4. Remain faithful and true to who you are and to your commitment in the relationship. Often times we may feel inclined to pull back when we start to lose trust but giving less in the relationship is not going to help instead of pulling back either give your all or withdraw all together.
5. If you do find that your partner is being unfaithful I would suggest that you immediately pursue counseling and don’t feel bad about separating. Separation is a strong but appropriate response to infidelity.