CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – We all want to be liked by others, but few of us actually know how to be more likeable. Jeff Londraville, Author of “The Filter” and recently featured as a teen expert in a new book called “The Expert Guide to Teenagers,” shared ways to increase your likeability.
5 Ways to Increase Likeability
1. Remember the 3 Cs (compliments, cooperation and consideration)
Be generous with your praise and offer positive feedback. Remember that recognition goes a long way! This also demonstrates a sense of being on the same side as they are. Be considerate of those around you. This includes letting someone else in front of you in line at the coffee shop, holding a door open, and driving more mindfully. In general, these small steps will go far in both how you feel about others and how they feel about you. These little gestures will create a cycle of positive behavior!
2. Mind your manners
Most people, it turns out, like to be treated with manners and respect. People will look at you differently. And more important– treat you differently .
It’s the very first thing you can do to get people to like you. As Maya Angelou puts it, “People will forget what you said but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
4. Practice compassion
We all have the ability to be compassionate. Connecting to others without judging, and without fear of being judged means we expand beyond fear into a place of likability. We are naturally drawn toward those who aren’t over competing or over comparing themselves to us. If you’re not sure how to develop compassion, start by being a good listener. Everyone likes to feel heard.
5. Be real
Maintaining your integrity lessens the anxiety of those around you, which in turn makes you more likable and easy to be around.