CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – Planning a wedding can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be! Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tim Hope shared tips on how to manage wedding stress!
Take an Assessment
Identify what you can handle and what you cannot, and whom you can count on for help and support before you walk down the aisle. Ask yourself, “What do I foresee as being a source of stress?” and “How do I plan to manage it?” Preparation and self-awareness are key.
Stay Connected with Your fiancé
Under the pressure and stress of planning a wedding, it is easy to lose touch with the person you love most. Schedule date nights, be it a dinner out or a movie in, to squeeze in some quality alone time. Observe how you two successfully manage the challenges of preparing for the wedding together. Talk about how you two want to handle other challenges that you have not yet mastered. This will give you insight in how to successfully manage the challenges of married life.
Take Care of Your Yourself
Exercise has positive emotional and psychological effects. Take a walk, go for a run, or dance around your kitchen. Any type of physical movement will help produce more uplifting and stress-stabilizing endorphins.
Allow Yourself to Be Nervous
It is okay to feel a little jittery. In fact, anxiety or even fear often accompanies prewedding excitement and joy. It is normal, healthy even, to wonder about this lifetime commitment you are making. Just because you have these thoughts, that does not mean you do not want to get married. Acknowledge your nerves, write them down, discuss them with a trusted confidant, or meditate or pray, and then move on.
Jot Down Your Feelings
Journaling can be an effective way for you to express the emotions you’ve been experiencing, as well as to keep track of any plans, thoughts, concerns, or questions you may have about the upcoming wedding.
Do not Be Afraid to Delegate
You cannot handle everything by yourself — as super as you may be. Weddings are major endeavors, so enlist friends and family to help make place cards, tie bows onto favors, and run errands. Identify strengths, talents, and abilities in your friends and family and rely on them to help you.
Weddings are widely viewed as positive, happy affairs, and they are, but they come with challenges that can be quite stressful. By following these tips, you can better manage these challenges and feel more prepared to handle the future challenges of married life. Enjoy!