CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – Valentine’s Day can evoke feelings of loneliness and self-doubt for those of us who don’t have a date. Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tim Hope shared some tips to surviving this love-filled holiday.
Single and Dealing with Feeling Lonely
Spend time with family and friends.
If you are feeling lonely, talk to your family and hang out with your friends. Sitting on your own, in a darken room with the curtains closed will do nothing for your confidence and will make you feel more pessimistic. Get out there and socialize with friends and take your mind off being single!
Do not think less of yourself.
Being in a relationship does not make you a better, more achieved person. Being single does not take away all that you have achieved and all that you can do.
Do not go searching.
Some say that you do not find love, love finds you. Love will find you when you are least expecting it, you are most yourself, immersing yourself in the things that you enjoy.
If you are lonely, take up a sport or exercise. Running, swimming, taking walks are great activities to relieve stress and potentially get connected to a community of other people exercising.
Learn something new.
Take up a hobby, volunteer at your church, learn to knit, take martial arts, read, sing, etc. These are things that can help you build a sense of mastery and feel better about yourself.
Try not to idealize relationships.
Remember that being in a relationship with someone is not always easy. Relationships are hard work and can have significant challenges!
Do not live in the past and hold on to past relationship/crushes.
This is a very common thing people do when they have been hurt in a previous relationship. Accept the fact that the relationships is over and it is time to move on.